When things hit you out of the unexpected, it can be an even bigger blow to your emotional stability than when you prepared yourself for something, like an upcoming date (b-day, anniversary, etc.).
This happened to Tim yesterday. He went online to file for an extension in filing our taxes. The system had him update his information. When it came to the section with dependents, he had to select the 'delete' button for Pierce. It about killed him! Such a harsh, stark, reminder that he's gone and not coming back by having to select and click on delete, when it comes in regards to your child.
Suicide - the gift that keeps on giving.